I can do both.
My mother started to teach me how to cook when I was in middle school and she sensed my growing independence and need for some degree of self sufficiency. My father, who happened to be the better cook, had died some years prior. So I’ve been cooking and baking (from scratch) since I was about 12 or 13. Everyone I know, knows that I can cook and cook well. So if that was really all there was too it, I should be married. On the other hand, I know more married and engaged women than I can count who can’t even boil water and who marvel whenever I bake a batch of cookies, lol! That alone should tell you that food and sex aren’t enough to sustain a relationship.
I’ve also learned that cooking, like sex, isn’t something that should be done at the ready. If I make a meal for you, just like when I decide to give you my body, it’s special; otherwise, neither will be fully appreciated. I’ve told friends and loved ones only half jokingly that if I’ve cooked or baked for them it means that they are someone special to me.
There is more to marriage and the marriage decline than just cooking and sex. Moreover, judging by the black community’s near 80% OOW birthrate, sex isn’t the problem. I’m also sure many of those baby mamas were more than happy to cook for their children’s father(s).
The reality is is that cooking is a vital skill that men and women both should know how to do. If you want to live, you need to know how to prepare food. I’m not saying that it doesn’t matter, what I am saying is that it’s not the only thing. It’s too simplistic and keeps us all from addressing the real reasons for society’s current relationship instability.
